I'm almost certain now that he's interested in me as more than a friend, and I expect him to ask me out soon, if I just give him a little more encouragement.
The problem is that I respect and care about him so much, but I'm not physically attracted to him.
All of my girl friends I've talked to about this have thrown up their arms at that point and told me not to even bother; if I'm not attracted to him physically, it's a lost cause.
I think the media have given me this idea that when I really fall for a guy, I will immediately want to start making out with him. I'm not repulsed by him, but there's no sexual tension between us.
I can't really put my finger on what it is about him that I'm not attracted to; it's just that he's not the type of guy I ever saw myself with.
He's healthy and in good shape and not a bad-looking guy, but I just don't look at him and think, According to all my friends who are in relationships, that's a problem.
It might take some effort for me to grow to be attracted to him and to become open to a physical relationship with someone who has simply been my friend for so long, but I think he is worth it.
Do you think it's possible to grow to be attracted physically to someone over time? I am starting to return his romantic feelings because I connect so well with him and he is a godly and caring man, but everyone says I'd be wasting my time and would only hurt him in the long run because if I don't find him attractive now, I never will.
Their counsel resembles that of the foolish woman in Proverbs.
I think it's fine to wait and see if he is willing to take the risk to ask you out. And once you start loving a man, truly loving him in the fullness of marriage, they become even less important.
No need to feel like it's your job to move the relationship in that direction — it's his. It's my hope that single believers are holding both looks and personality lightly enough to weigh character. And where the character is godly and sound, there's at least the possibility that attraction will grow.
Before I found Boundless, I had already started a "buddy" relationship with one of my best guy friends.
He moved across the country several months ago, but we still talk through email almost every day.